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Post by Demon John on Jun 8, 2009 9:09:47 GMT
Seriously, she thinks it's pretty much all down to me that our 1 year relationship failed, yet, even with the whole "Buckley to No.1" bullshit, and her love for all things Idol/X-Factor, she still thinks Jeff wrote Hallelujah! So not listening to your lover isn't an integral part of a break up now I guess.
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Post by nikolaki on Jun 8, 2009 13:54:04 GMT
man thats low, although a little vague.
theres nothing sadder than the flat denial of a female that you love.
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Post by Demon John on Jun 8, 2009 15:28:11 GMT
Well, you'd think after all the times I spoke of that song during Pop Idol was in the news about it over here, and in general, you'd think she'd have paid some attention.
As for the love thing Nick, not sure there was really any if I'm brutally honest, I just dislike the way she talks to her friends about me, some I became friends with too, when all relationships, for better or worse, are about both of you, not a single demonised person.
Guess whatever makes her feel better about herself huh?
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Post by plantlet on Jun 8, 2009 21:35:52 GMT
I'm sad to hear that your making up attempts didn't work out. But as it sounds, it probably was for the better.
I think it's pretty much a smack in the face when your partner doesn't even care about a big part of your life/personality which Jeff clearly is for you. She doesn't have to become a die-hard fan because of that, but could at least show some interest for God's sake!
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Post by plantlet on Jun 9, 2009 11:15:09 GMT
Well I think this is obviously no detail, since (like I stated) Jeff is a huge part of Martyn's life. In a relationship you normally care for the stuff your partner is really passionate about. Besides, I think Martyn wanted to point out that they weren't exactly on the same level or just had a different Weltanschauung maybe?
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Post by Demon John on Jun 9, 2009 11:41:31 GMT
Yes Plantlet, whatever that word is! Not enough shared interests or passion between us to make it work, and not enough work on her part in taking the least bit of interest on my interests, she probably couldn't tell you the name of the album either, even though I mentioned to her about the latest release about a week ago.
C'est la vie as the French say.
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Post by plantlet on Jun 9, 2009 21:01:43 GMT
Haha sorry to cause the confusion guys  Guess the internet lied to me, 'cause I read that the use of this German word is common in English too ... It means 'world-view' or basically how someone sees the world or what his ideology is, something along those lines ... |
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Post by Demon John on Jun 11, 2009 22:33:31 GMT
All ties are, as of today, cut, so all there is is the odd chat online, perhaps. It feels good, but bad also. Sadly she got all emotional about it, and I was the pragmatic male. Ah well...
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Post by plantlet on Jun 13, 2009 22:01:10 GMT
I don't know if the pragmatic one has always got to be the male one. I actually broke up with my bf recently, and I think I was more pragmatic about it then he was. Though it was one of the toughest decisions I had to make in my life. After all we've been together for 9 years. And for all those years he was my #1 person. But the relationship kind of stagnated and I felt I had to move on.
Change is always hard, but it's an important part in life.
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Post by Demon John on Jun 15, 2009 20:12:28 GMT
At the end of any relationship one of you has to be the strong one, otherwise they'ed never end I guess, and we'd all end up doing the whole murder/suicide thing!
9 years though Plantlet, that's twice any relationship I've ever been in, a tough one, but as you say, things have to change sometimes, and when they don't you make a change.
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Post by A Singing Smile on Jul 5, 2009 17:57:30 GMT
>>Not enough shared interests or passion between us to make it work, and not enough work on her part in taking the least bit of interest on my interests,>>
Yeah, that's definitely a recipe for disaster.
You’re right – it does take two to make a relationship work; hopefully, your friends will keep that in mind whenever your ex starts talking trash about you, and pay no attention to her.
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Post by pacified haze on Aug 12, 2009 2:15:26 GMT
Sorry to hear about this, but truthfully, martyn, if you weren't sure the love was there in the first place, time to move on. Why waste a whole year? (wise ords from from a female prgamatist)
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Guess the internet lied to me, 'cause I read that the use of this German word is common in English too ... It means 'world-view' or basically how someone sees the world or what his ideology is, something along those lines ... 
